In most human
societies, preparation for death and the afterlife is a central part of life.
The practice of the ars moriendi -the art of dying - does
not reflect some morbid preoccupation. It is actually life-affirming rather
than life-denying. By coming to know Death as a friend, you release the energy
you have invested in trying to bottle up your darkest fears. When you establish
for yourself — through personal experience
— that there is life after life, you will find you take a more relaxed and
generous view of the vicissitudes of everyday life. When you examine your life
from the standpoint of your death, you will surely find that there is no reason
to perpetuate old quarrels and jealousies. You will wish to put things right
between yourself and others, to give up petty agendas and live fully and
creatively for the years allotted to you.
In postindustrial
Western societies, the neglect of the art of dying has led to a vogue for
spiritual practices drawn from other traditions, such as Tibetan Buddhism,
which offers a detailed geography of the afterlife that may or may not be
relevant to you if you are not a Tibetan Buddhist. Our general neglect is fed
by both fear and denial. The denial thrives on our hurry sickness, our tendency
to fill up our time with compulsive, external activities — interspersed with
infusions of passive consumer entertainment, IV-fed through the TV tubes —
leaving no space for the inner search. Filling our lives with a bustle of
responsibilities that leaves us with “no time” to commune with soul is
mockingly described by a Tibetan master as “housekeeping in a dream.” Sögyal
Rinpoche asks, “Would anyone in their right mind think of laboriously
redecorating their hotel room every time they booked into one?
Our fear of death is
bound up with our confusion about who we are. We fear losing all the props,
connections, and résumés that we confuse with identity. We are terrified of
being stripped of rank and title and credit cards and cell phones and being
sent naked into the next world, as Inanna must descend naked into the
underworld.
Your death is a
rather important subject, not just the when and how, but the question of what
follows, and what it all means. On a subject this vital and this intimate, you
would be ill-advised to take answers on trust from other people. But how can we
know before dying what lies on the other side, and know this as personal truth?
In two ways: through a visitation by
a resident of the Otherworld whose information can be verified; or by soul
travel, by making a personal journey
to the Other Side. My book Conscious Dreaming
explores dream visitations by the departed. Here I want to suggest a variety of techniques by which you can embark on conscious dream journeys to
explore the conditions of the afterlife for yourself.
An art of dying
adequate to our needs and yearnings today must address at least these five key
areas:
Practice
in dream travel and journeying beyond the body. By practicing the projection of
consciousness beyond the physical plane, we settle any personal doubts about
the soul’s survival of physical death.
Developing
a personal geography of the afterlife. Through conscious dream journeys, we can
visit “ex-physicals” — and their teachers — in their own environments. We can
explore a variety of transit areas and reception centers, adapted to the expectations
and comfort levels of different types of people, where the recently departed
are helped to adapt to their new circumstances. We can tour the “collective
belief territories,” some established centuries or millennia ago, where
ex-physicals participate ins hared activities and religious practices. We can
examine processes of life review, reeducation, and judgment and follow the
transition of spirits between different after-death states. We can also study
the different fates of different vehicles of consciousness after physical
death.
Helping
the dying. The application of insights and techniques gained in these
explorations to helping the dying through what some hospice nurses describe as
the “nearing death experience.” In many of our hospitals (where most
Westerners die) death is treated as a failure, or merely the loss of vital
signs, followed by a pulled-out plug, a disconnected respirator, and the
disposal of the remains. As we recover the art of dying, many of us in all
walks of life — not only ministers and health care professionals and hospice
volunteers — will be able to play the role of companion on the deathwalk,
helping the dying to approach the next life with grace and courage and to make
the last seasons of this life a period of personal growth. The skills required
in this area include the ability to communicate on a soul level with patients
who are in coma, are unable to speak or reason clearly, or have suffered severe
memory loss. A vital aspect of this work is facilitating or mediating contact
between the dying and helpers on the other side — especially departed loved
ones — who can give assistance through the transition. Dreamwork and meditation
are invaluable tools in helping the dying to prepare for the conditions of life
beyond the body.
Helping
the departed. We pray for our dead in our churches and temples, and no good
intention is ever wasted. However, you may have a hard time finding a priest
who is willing to take on the role of psychopomp,
or guide of souls, and provide personal escort service to spirits of the
departed who have lost their way and gotten stuck between the worlds, causing
pain and confusion to themselves and sometimes to their survivors. Yet the
living have a crucial role to play in helping to release earthbound or troubled
spirits. For one thing, some of these “ex-physicals” seem to trust people who
have physical bodies more than entities that do not, because there is comfort
in the familiar, because they did not believe in an afterlife before passing on
— or quite simply because they do not know they are dead. An art of dying for
our times must include the ability to dialogue with these spirits and help them
to find their right path.
Making
death your ally. Finally, we are challenged to reach into the place of our deepest
fears and master them: to face our own death on its own ground and re-value our
lives and our purpose from this perspective. When we “brave up” enough to
confront our personal Death and receive its teaching, we forge an alliance that
is a source of power and healing in every aspect of life. We may now be able to carry a sense of divine comedy that can help us weather whatever life throws at us on a given day.
Art: "Storm Bird Brings Me Back" by Robert Moss
Text adapted from Dreamgates: Exploring the Worlds of Soul, Imagination and Life Beyond Death. by Robert Moss. Published by New World Library. Here you will find detailed practices and travel repots.