Thursday, August 22, 2013

Making creative friends

In life's transitions, one of our greatest assets is a creative friend, the kind of friend who supports us through change, encourages the best in us, and can speak truth without bringing us down. Where do you find such a friend, if you don't have one? Maybe one is waiting for you today. Here's how I once helped turn a room full of strangers into potential creative friends.

I was leading an evening program titled “Key Habits of Creative People”. We made a fabulous beginning, in the course of which I helped people to visualize a creative project they could bring through in any area of their lives. As I guided them to turn their visions into affirmations and practical action steps, I encouraged them to check in with their bodies to make sure that their bodies believed them (the necessary antidote to all that New Age misdirection on the "law of attraction").
     I had planned to open the second part of the class, after the break, by introducing the idea of the “creative friend” - the person who supports you through change and offers you the right kind of feedback. When I was glommed onto by a very needy woman during the break, I made up a new game in that cause - out of sheer desperation. The needy woman complained she wasn't “connected”, didn't know any creative people etc.
     “Look around you,” I suggested. “There are forty people here who have come to learn how to be more creative and are seeking creative friends. Go introduce yourself to one of them - a stranger - before the end of the break. Do this with two statements.
   “First, tell them something about your regular life. For example, ‘I’m Jill, I’m a software designer, I live in Saratoga, I’m a single mother and I ride horses every other weekend.’
   “Second, make a statement about your creative project. Put it in the present tense and make it entirely affirmative. Say it so anyone hearing you might be inspired to help. ‘I’m writing children’s stories and I’m always looking for new ideas.’ Or: ‘I'm redecorating a barn where I’m going to paint and hold weekend retreats.’ Or: ‘I'm working on improving my cooking or my golf game.’”
    She looked scared for a moment, and when she gathered up her stuff I wondered if she was going to quit the room. Instead, she marched over to the cutest guy in the room, sat down next to him and proceeded to introduce herself exactly as suggested. It turned out he had exactly the resources she needed to pursue her current creative project; they exchanged coordinates and promised to stay in touch.
    When we started up again, I had everyone introduce themselves to a stranger in the group by the same protocol. The listeners were prepped to offer immediate positive feedback and, if appropriate, to suggest tools and resources. The effect was GRRRREAT! Several people said they felt they had literally been “blessed.’

Photo: Magic Mountain family (c) Robert Moss


nance Thacker said...

So true. Our bodies have to be in agreement with the desired goals. So many times I have been working on a goal, seemingly with all my heart and soul only to discover that my body is saying "nope, not gonna happen".
In my capacity as a hypnotist I see/feel this all the time coming from my clients. Either the goal is not authentic or blockages (anywhere from lack of self-confidence to other wounds) need to be discovered and released before we can move towards our desired goal.
I agree that this is a key element that is often overlooked when it comes to working with intention.

Nigel said...

Thanks Robert - returning to your Blog again from the internet wilderness. I loved this. I have just joined a rock band (despite being a classical music guy) and this has connected me with some great new creative people. I think creativity and friendship are essentials for life. Take care, Nige

amanda said...

may be but Either the goal is not authentic or blockages (anywhere from lack of self-confidence to other wounds) need to be discovered and released before we can move towards our desired goal.