Friday, February 26, 2016

Claiming the gifts of nightmares


Dreams are not on our case; they are on our side. This is one of my personal mantras about dreams and (yes) it applies even to nightmares.
     In my personal lexicon, a nightmare is not only a "bad" or scary dream; it is an interrupted or aborted dream. We are so frightened we run away. We wake ourselves up and try to slam the door on the dream experience, hoping that it is "only" a dream and can't get out and come after us. This is a very foolish strategy.
    The challenges we face in dreams are challenges that are being presented by life itself. If we learn to confront the underlying issues inside the dream space, we may be able to prevent those issues from blowing up in our regular lives. This may require us to take action in waking life, based on what we have learned in our dreams; but we will lack the essential data required for appropriate action if we have left the dream broken and abandoned, behind that door we are trying to keep shut.
     Common forms of the nightmare include:

The nameless terror.
The intruder.
Being pursued.
Being attacked by a wild animal.
Suffering an infestation of bugs, spiders or bats.
An unwanted encounter with the dead.
Being attacked by vampires, demons or zombies.
Being overwhelmed by a giant wave or a twister.
Being in a plane crash or an auto accident.

You probably have your own version. We have different lives, different characters, and different styles of dreaming (another reason why you will never find the full meaning of dreams by looking them up in a dream dictionary). My own least favorite dreams are ones in which I am stuck in a place where I don't want to be.
     Whatever the content of the dreams you flee from, the Rx is the same: try to learn to confront the challenge on the ground where it is presented. This requires firm intention and some degree of courage.
     You want to learn to go back inside a dream you fled and try to clarify and resolve what is going on there. You can accomplish this through the dream reentry technique explained in several of my books, including Conscious Dreaming and  Active DreamingYou want to give a name to that nameless dread. You want to know whether the plane crash was literal or symbolic and, either way, what you need to do to avoid it. You want to establish whether that dream intruder is someone who could literally break into your house, or a disease that could invade your body, or an aspect or yourself - maybe even your Greater Self - that is trying to get your attention. If you are scared of dream vampires, you want to think about who or what in your life may be draining your energy; if your dream house is infested, you need to know whether this reflects a condition in your body that may need medical attention.
     I think it's like this: our dream producers are constantly trying to alert us to things essential to our health, wholeness and well-being. When we ignore these messages, they resort to special effects to get our attention. If we persist in ignoring the messages, the problem the nightmares reflect is likely to show up in our regular lives. Nightmares are a gift in the way that a smoke detector going off in the middle of the night - when there is a real fire hazard - is a gift.
    Sometimes we find that what we are fleeing in dreams is an aspect of our own power. When I first started living in rural New York, I dreamed repeatedly of a giant bear that came into my bedroom. He did not menace me, but he was so much bigger than me that he scared me. Finally, I told myself (as I would now counsel anyone) that I needed to go back inside those dreams, confront the bear, and discover why he was in my space. When I did that, the bear caught me up in his great embrace and showed me that we were joined at the heart, reassuring me that when I needed healing for myself or others, he would be there. I later learned that the bear is the great medicine animal of North America, and he has kept his promise.
      I have worked with several people challenged by cancer who fled from sharks in their dreams. When they agreed to swim in those dream water through conscious dream reentry, they were able to claim the shark as an ally in healing. The shark, an impeccable killing machine that rarely gets cancer, is indeed an extraordinary ally in healing cancer. But to claim that kind of power, we are first required to brave up.

Image: "Inner Shark" by Aniela Sobieski

1 comment:

Patricia said...

Not too long ago I had a horrible conscious nightmare of a woman who had to endure a horrible family situation. When she went to the "authorities" she was raped instead of helped. I wanted to leave the dream but couldn't. So I tried to just be the observer but found that it was best to offer her a steady part of my dream self and "walked in her shoes" with her. When I woke I was panicked and felt like this was an intrusion into the apartment I was living in. I took action to cleanse the space. That afternoon the woman I had dreamed of knocked on my door. She was the partner to the woman who had owned the apartment. She had come to fix the sliding glass door. We talked for over an hour. She mostly talked about her life and I mostly listened. Her body was hard and she mostly joked away the pain. The next time I saw her she brought her daughter to meet me.

The dream gifts: I was happy to see a softness in this woman when she was with her daughter. I was happy to see she could express tenderness and not just joke away hardships.

The sensation of waking up with intense feelings and then my mind offering the thought that this was an intrusion into my apartment space was also a gift. I trust now when I have intense emotions when I wake up and how my mind connects into them before I am out of that hypnogogic state. I would not use the word intruder into my apartment, instead I let her walk in. So this part of the thought was literal for me and thinking it as an intruder reminded me of the importance of cleansing my psyche space.